有位朋友育有三名子女，二兒一女排序，得一女兒，又係細妹，在家中自然較為得寵。小孩子的察言觀色很多時是天生的，所以雖夫婦二人平日絕不容許有偏心情況出現，但細妹仍很清楚自己有少少不同，常常霸住媽咪，誰如作狀想拍打下媽咪、或拉走媽咪，對方的手未到，細妹已呱呱大叫，起勢轟對方走。真的世上只有媽媽好！
但凡事都有例外的！
為了孩子可健康成長，夫婦二人嚴格控制住，不會輕易讓小孩進食零食，務求三餐均可正常進食。不過幼年時期的孩子，有幾多個真係會大啖大啖食架？有無聽聞過，為了細路食餐飯，全家上下出動，百寶使盡，個小祖宗就是不張口。雖說細路大下大下自然會食架喇，又或者一餐半餐唔食，無事嘅！但試問，有幾多初為人父母的在面對孩子正餐不下嚥時，仍能豁豁達達呀？媽咪細心自研健康餐單，每餐為兄妹三人各自分好一份適量的飯餐，兄妹完成了自己那份，才會在下午茶時間獲獎少量零食。好似好完美，其實不是的，每餐飯兄妹都總會各自在自己的餐碟挑出些唔食的，你唔食二樣，我又要唔食二樣。
某日，媽咪帶三兄妹外出，玩得開心，媽咪破戒讓三小豆丁食多了零食。哈，回家晚飯兄妹均食不下了，望著自己份飯餐一動不動。父親見狀，不悅，「哦，即係話今日下午食咗好多零食喇！唔食飯都得，但要食咗啲肉同菜」。但三兄妹你眼望我眼，仍是沒動手。父親即作狀去取來藤條，放在餐桌上，說，「二個方法，一就盡量食，二就唔食都得，不過如果唔食，呢支藤條就用來打媽咪。」二位哥哥望著媽咪依舊坐著，但細妹即刻半邊Pat離開了座位，開心說，「噢！唔使食喇，打媽咪！」
一時之間，父親反而不知如何繼續演戲，因父親以為用了萬無一失的方法讓孩子進食，點知平日最錫媽咪的細妹關健時刻竟「出賣」了媽咪。好彩，細妹只係離開了半邊Pat時，眼見二位哥哥無走，旋即又自動坐番低，場戲才得以完成。
12 則留言:
哈...我系阿妈即刻心都寒晒, 以后唔好话零食, 有饭食都算系甘啦.
我不會縱容孩子吃的問題，全面軍訓，不吃，拉倒，孩子都知道這是我的底線，不敢超越，否則後果堪虞。
古惑妹
唔教的話
大個可能變本加厲
小瓶子︰
哈哈！等妳日後做咗人媽咪時，就知可憐天下父母心喇！
風月︰
讀妳文已知妳很理性，羨慕！
卡臣︰
細妹的確有世界女味道。
唔食就算。餓一兩次就一定會聽話啦。
Hi eric︰
謝謝留言！咦，你又有經驗？
Hi Coffee n tea,
I sometimes adopted behavior modification model, (using both positive and negative reinforcement), to provide effective parenting training for my cliens many, many years ago when I was a family and youth counsellor. It seems that the parents did not know how to set limits for their kids and the communication among them (mother and children, father and mother, parents and children) was not very effective. Actually, almost all of the young kids are egocentric and self-centered. They always want to get what they want/desire immediately and cannot delay gratifications. It sounds like I am an expert:) NO, I am not. To be honest with you, the interventions are not always effective and practical in certain settings. That's reason why we can see so much family violence and child abuse in the society.
I am a bit jealous of these three kids who you have mentioned about. I believe their parents love them very much. (Of course, love is not enough. They also need wisdom and effective parenting skills to discipline their kids as well.) I did not have parents who made time be with me, understand me and give me support when I was young. At least, I could not feel that they loved me. I still have a lot of mixed feelings about them and the ways how they treated me. After providing social serices to the community for the past so many years, I have seen a lot of parents who were totally irresponible, incapable, harsh and even brutal to their kids. The fact is: they should not have kids because they don't know how to be or become parents of loving kindness. However, I do believe most of the parents are good parents and they want to try their best to take good care of their children.
You have parents who love you dearly, don't you? Lucky you!
BbBb
我經常都奇怪，為何零食不能當正餐。Well, 是不健康，但不會每天都一樣吧。至於小孩子不願吃飯，我也覺得沒問題，他們不餓就好了。不吃飯，ok, 也不會讓他們吃其它東西。餓了，就甚麽都會吃;)
BbBb,
I am quite sorry to know that you didn't have the love you deserved when you were young, so maybe you had a lonely childhood, it must be a hard time.
I was quite lonely when I was young, but I had love.
With Love
Coffee
嚴明︰
唔係講笑，我都好似你咁諗過，如果零食係正餐，正餐係零食，唔知會點呢！
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